This Is How You Lose Her

Yunior is a Dominican-American man who struggles with chronic infidelity and the emotional fallout of his choices. Through a series of interlocking short stories, he documents his failed relationships, from high school flings to intense engagements. The narrative details his inability to stay faithful, his cultural ideas of masculinity, and the deep-seated grief that follows each breakup. He confronts the distance between his desire for intimacy and his compulsive habit of betraying the women he claims to love, often realizing his mistakes only after the damage is permanent.

This book is for men who struggle with repeat patterns of sabotage in their romantic lives and for readers who want to understand the impact of machismo on modern dating. Readers walk away with a blunt look at how unresolved personal history and cultural expectations can destroy a partnership. It offers a realistic view of how ego and dishonesty erode trust, providing a cautionary perspective on the difficulty of changing one's behavior even when the stakes are high.